Guide to Getting It On! by Paul Joannides

If you open a window and make love to the world, your writing will get pneumonia.”ĭuring his career, Paul has struggled with knowing when to adopt new language for different editions of his book. To paraphrase a quote by Kurt Vonnegut: “write for just one person. And because Paul writes predominantly about heterosexual sex, his work is best served not trying to be overly-inclusive in nature. He also talks about how he learned early on to stick to the principle of: “write what you know.” The point being that the homosexual community doesn’t want to be patronized. Paul talks about how conforming to hyper-politically-correct aspects of society tends to lead to bad writing. To hear more thoughts on the topic, listen along.

But to substitute a real anatomical and physiological understanding for one that isn’t real is detrimental to a collective understanding of the sexual realm. Because of porn’s ubiquity, more people are getting a degree in porn over a real sexual education. There are many reasons why Paul’s work is so important: one of the most pressing needs is to teach a younger generation so steeped in porn that the industry is meant for entertainment, and thus should not be taken to be real sex. Pick up a copy of his book if you want to experience it for yourself! He is also fascinated by the topic and wanted to provide as much an education for the average person as possible, with calculated dollops of comedic relief and cleverness thrown in for good measure. In all seriousness, Paul had a very noble reason for choosing to write about sex so prolifically and profoundly: he wanted to help those who have anxiety regarding sex. Money! Paul is a self-professed cash hound. And for the rest on the ever-changing forms and revisions, the book has undergone, tune into the episode. He eventually self-published the book and the rest is history. Paul goes on to speak about the many iterations of the book–he even had to cut almost half of his draft to appease editors.

Even a North Carolinian editor of a publishing house wagged his finger, saying that the subject matter would never fly but ironically, years later, his book is being used as a central resource for sexual education for three college courses in North Carolina.

After Paul had taken nine years to finish the first draft of what would become The Guide To Getting It On, he wasn’t met with much success as he tried to get his work into circulation. If there was ever an excuse to self-publish a book, The Guide is a great example of how successful one can be using the practice. The Guide to Getting It On : A Self-Published Phenomenon

Guide to Getting It On! by Paul Joannides